MOZIAK MAGAZINE: WELCOME TO THE MOZIAK’S BLACK LOVE SERIES. TELL US A LITTLE BIT ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER.
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: Refilwe is my compass and my strength. I have known her since 2005, we started dating in 2007 May and we got married in 2009. She fulfils many roles in my life.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: We met at university. Yaw was my athletics coach. We became great friends, he was like an older brother… Always protective and gave awesome advice. One thing led to the other and before I knew it he was asking me out and I knew enough about him at that point to realise he was an amazing man.
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: HOW WELL DO YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT YOUR PARTNER DOES FOR A LIVING?
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: Currently she is self-employed, running her events company.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: I would like to think really well. He shares a lot about his day at work and I support him as much as possible when it comes to his career… So much so that I even accompanied him to his job interview for his current position.
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: WHAT DOES BLACK LOVE MEAN TO YOU?
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: Successful love stories from our communities that give us hope.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: It means creating your own love story through lived experiences of two people who cannot be apart.
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: WHAT LESSONS ABOUT LOVE WOULD YOU HOPE TO TEACH THE BLACK COMMUNITY THROUGH YOUR OWN ACTIONS?
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: Communication is key. Support from extended family, parents and in-law’s helps. Live within your means. Plan your finances together but also be ambitious and support each other’s dreams. Intimacy must never be neglected by both parties. Be adventurous with each other.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: You don’t need to choose between self-love and a romantic relationship, you can have both.
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: DESCRIBE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARTNER IN 5 WORDS
Yaw Fosu-Amoah:
- Exciting
- Joyful
- Developmental
- Journey
- Support
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah:
- Respect
- Honesty
- Forgiveness
- Fun
- Humour
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: WHAT DO YOU RECALL THE MOST VIVIDLY ABOUT YOUR FIRST DATE TOGETHER?
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: Popcorn, slash puppy and chocolate at Sterland at Hatfield Pretoria. We watched Transformers.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: Movies to watch his favourite movie at the time; transformers followed by frozen yogurt which happens to be my favourite dessert.
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: WHO IS THE MORE ROMANTIC PARTNER IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: Me.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: Definitely Yaw.
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: IN WHICH PERSONAL AREAS HAS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HELPED YOU GROW?
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: Communication, patience and understanding the views of others.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: Emotional. I am more matured now, the way I reason has totally transformed.
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: HOW DO YOU HANDLE CONFLICT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: By finding compromise. Working through our values.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: Communication is key… We are honest with each other and try find the best solution together. This sometimes takes a few arguments, but time has taught us to be real with each other.
MOZIAK MAGAZINE: IF YOUR PARTNER WAS HELD HOSTAGE AND HAD TO RELEASE A CODED MESSAGE THAT ONLY YOU WOULD REALISE IS A LIE AND IS ACTUALLY A CALL FOR HELP… WHAT WOULD THAT CODED MESSAGE BE?
Yaw Fosu-Amoah: I don’t ever want to go away on holiday again.
Refilwe Fosu-Amoah: Let’s go to the Maldives again.
